Gone Missing is written by Douglas Coop, the father of Peter Coop, a doctor who went missing in New Zealand in 1989.
Thousands of people go missing each year, exceeding the combined number of traffic fatalities, suicides and all the injuries requiring hospitalisation. In addition, each person reported missing affects at least twelve others emotionally or financially; immobilising families as there can be no closure until the fate of their loved one is resolved.
Based on decades of fieldwork, Gone Missing discusses the role of police and search agencies, how to deal with the media and the many organisations available to give support and assistance.
The book gives a detailed account of the emotional trauma and grieving suffered by those left behind, the professional help available, and explains the role of counselling. It examines why people go missing, and deals with their return or the finding of remains. No other book offers the same comprehensive information and guidance.
Jan says, “I agree with Douglas that it’s a really good idea to keep a journal to record what inquiries have been made, who said what and when – which might not become significant until later. It’s also a means of recording your feelings, your hopes and fears, so that your brain can process it all while you sleep, and so you can face the next day with a positive frame of mind. If your Loved One returns, they can read how much their absence affected your daily life. Sadly, some people go missing more than once, so if they can understand your viewpoint, they’re much more likely to talk to a friend, relative or counsellor before doing anything they may regret in the future.”